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Off-Topic Posts / Re: Is this forum against the term "cis"?
« Last post by siobhan on May 10, 2017, 01:58:43 pm »
I typically say "cis" in normal conversation when contrasting the subject with trans* people. It's just short-hand for me to use that, rather than "normies" or "non-trans". The fewer syllables I have to use to describe something, the better.
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Passing as Male for FTMs / The wrong kind of compliments making dysphoria worse
« Last post by PrinceOfPride on May 08, 2017, 05:41:44 pm »
Ok, so this may sound kind of petty and a bit "triggered" but I need to get this off my chest.

Does anyone else have an issue with the wrong kind of compliments making dysphoria worse?  I get these people are trying to be nice, I've never lashed out at any of them. But sometimes this crap just gets to me. :/

Some examples are "Your voice is so cute!" "You have such a pretty face." "You're almost like a pixie/faerie!" (I'm 5 feet tall so this doesn't really help with the "cute faerie" factor)

Most of these compliments happen at work.  I'm not out as trans, but I do make a point to at present as a butch. I get that they're trying to be nice (they aren't really saying it in a way that I would think has any ill intent), but on some really bad days this causes me to be even more critical of my body, even my face and shoulders (and normally these two attributes help me alleviate dysphoria since I'm pretty broad shouldered and have my dad's facial features).

I'm afraid to tell these people to not compliment me like this, but I don't want to risk sounding like a "triggered tranny" but this stuff just gets to me some days.

I'm checking in with my endocrinologist in a couple weeks. I'm thinking my dosage may be too high and converting to estrogen because it's been three months and my voice is still just as squeaky as ever.
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FTM HRT (Estrogen Blockers and Testosterone) / Re: Testosterone Dosage
« Last post by itsmematthewc on May 04, 2017, 07:22:13 pm »
It's okay, it's been increased now, and my endo has reassured me that it's not uncommon for it to take longer for the voice to drop completely.
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Off-Topic Posts / Re: Is this forum against the term "cis"?
« Last post by EvanTheViolinist on May 04, 2017, 04:54:40 am »
I'm more prone to saying "normal people". Or non trans. It has been used as a slur. It's also mainly been used by distasteful people, so why would I want to sound like them? "Cis" I will use when typing fast to another transsexual, but it's slapping a label on someone who doesn't want or need it.
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Coming Out For FTMs / Re: Coming out to the religious extended side.. (Tips would be appreciated)
« Last post by EvanTheViolinist on May 04, 2017, 04:10:15 am »
I'm more religious than my folks so I've never understood how religion played a negative role =P If you want respect, you need to show respect in turn. So what I mean by that is IF your extended family is against your transition for specifically religious reasons (honestly some religious people are very supportive because they don't believe in God making mistakes so in that sense you are not a mistake for pursuing your gender) you need to learn where it's coming from and how you can reasonably address what they say. For example, the Catholic belief that you rented the body and must return it as it was, meaning no cremation, no tattoos, no sex reassignment surgery. From what you've said, their perception seems to be derived from distaste towards counter culture, like drag. There are certainly transsexuals who do it for the sex, pun intended, but that is neither here nor there for the purposes of your coming out. State that this is about you, only you, and comfort in your own skin. If your relationship was good before, it probably will be still. Remember, if you are not directly their responsibility- they will not take the matter as seriously as your immediate family. I hope this was helpful.
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FTM HRT (Estrogen Blockers and Testosterone) / Re: Testosterone Dosage
« Last post by Bacon on May 04, 2017, 04:05:45 am »
If you take testosterone by needle, it should say the dosage on the box you get the bottles in (if you take it some other way, i'd assume the container would still say it). I got my dosage increased when i was on T for almost a year. On my box, it currently says "inject 0.5 ML under the skin once weekly". I think my original dosage was 0.3 ML.

It might not help the paranoia since there's always uncertainty, but some guys take longer than others to get certain traits, including the deep voice.

EDIT: I didn't check the date of your post, sorry about that.
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Off-Topic Posts / Re: Is this forum against the term "cis"?
« Last post by Bacon on May 04, 2017, 03:41:04 am »
To me, it doesn't seem much different from calling non-LGB people "straight". However, I avoid saying "cis" because of how it's often used by rather hostile people. If it wasn't for that fact, I don't think I'd have a problem saying it (for me, it rolls off the tongue easier than "non trans").
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Legal Name/Gender Changes for MTFs / Re: Overseas, As an American Citizen
« Last post by JadynFaye on April 21, 2017, 11:14:55 am »
I wish you luck in trying to get everything sorted out. I didn't have problems with my name change or gender marker changes, but I am having issues with my social security information as it always results in a fight. I don't have any advice to offer, but you do have my sympathy.

P.S. It's actually kind of interesting that you're in Yongsan. My husband and I are planning on moving to Korea soon-ish. =)
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MTF Breast Augmentation / Re: When Should You Go Buy Boobies? Or Expectation Management
« Last post by JadynFaye on April 21, 2017, 11:08:33 am »
I've been on HRT for almost 5 years now and I can say that while my growth has stagnated a bit, I do have the occasional major spurt of growth where I go up almost half a cup size. I understand what you mean and I've seen girls get implants too soon, then end up tearing at the seam because of explosive growth they didn't foresee. I'd make the argument that as long as there's decent growth and you're comfortable, it's probably (relatively) safe. (Relatively because it's still surgery and there's an inherent risk with all surgeries.)
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MTF Breast Augmentation / Re: When Should You Go Buy Boobies? Or Expectation Management
« Last post by Integra on April 09, 2017, 10:56:14 pm »
I don't think it's super rare. I'm only one year in and I already have B cups (since Nov as I recall), plus my lead doctor says they will keep growing.
Though I've never heard of bottom surgery as a boost for breast growth. 😅
That's a nice thought, because if they don't grow up to that C, I'll be getting a BA.
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